You know we have to talk about it.

If you’re out of the Bravosphere but you’ve heard snippets of people talking about ‘poor Ciara’ or ‘I can’t believe Amanda could do that’ or ‘West really is a fuckboy’, and you’re wondering what on earth these people are referring to, let me quickly catch you up to speed.

On Bravo’s Summer House, a very popular reality show where a bunch of young attractive people share a holiday house over the summer (hence the name) which has featured a bunch of stars over the years, including Paige Desorbo, Hannah Berner, and Alex Wach (partially a joke, but I actually loved Alex… more on that in another post).

Keep these faces in mind as you read this post. L to R: Ciara, Amanda, West, Kyle.

Ciara Miller is a fan favourite, and it’s easy to see why – she’s down to earth, she has no fucks to give, she stands ten toes down in what she believes in, she looks like an actual goddess sent from heaven, and she also has a wicked sense of humour. When Ciara turned up in season five, she made an instant connection with fans and has been one of the top stars of the show ever since.

Enter West Wilson, the loveable himbo that he is, in season eight. In his first season, he had an instant connection with Ciara and things became closer and more intimate between the two, which was quickly shattered once the season had wrapped filming because West got caught up in the media whirlwind of it all and he fucked over Ciara big time. His abysmal performance at the season eight reunion, coupled with the fact that Ciara dogwalked him the entire reunion, left a poor taste in fans’ mouths after having a mostly positive debutante season.

Ever since then, West has quietly and cautiously tried to win Ciara’s favour back – and in turn, the adoration of the fans – and he made a good headstart on this in season nine, and as season ten currently airs as of writing, we can see a small rekindling of a flame between the two.

Now let’s talk about Amanda Batula. Amanda was featured in season one as Kyle Cooke’s number one FWB, which then grew into an actual monogamous relationship. We then witnessed them get engaged on the show, and even caught their wedding. But throughout the duration of the show, whether it was as a dating couple or a married couple, we can see that their relationship was not perfect, and they would constantly argue in almost every season of the show. But through it all, they stuck by each other.

This is where it gets interesting, especially when you consider what’s currently airing. Season ten has obviously wrapped filming, after which it was announced that Kyle and Amanda have separated and have lived apart since late 2025. But what has recently aired from Summer House is a fight between Kyle and Amanda where West quickly jumped to Amanda’s defence in a very admirable and chivalrous manner. Now keep in mind he’s also working hard for Ciara’s approval, and it’s teased that he might have deeper feelings for her as well.

Then what do you know… AMANDA AND WEST HAVE ANNOUNCED THAT THEY’RE EXPLORING A CONNECTION BETWEEN THE TWO. In the most ridiculous joint statement you’ve ever seen.

There are two big things to consider at first:

1) On one of the most recent episodes that aired, Ciara spoke about the reality of being a black woman who dates white men in a public setting such as a reality show, and how she faces harsher criticisms and judgment because she’s black, while the white man tends to get away scot free, and;
2) We don’t know where the rest of the season is going. This could end with Ciara and West making a breakthrough in their relationship, possibly getting back together, and we as fans have to watch this knowing West and Amanda are currently a thing.

Now that you’ve caught up, I want to mention one thing about Amanda. Since the beginning of the show, and as her relationships with the other female castmates grew, it was clear to me that Amanda loved to stand up for women – even against her own boyfriend/fiance/husband – and that made her a girl’s girl. It was something that I absolutely admired in her.

Morally speaking, everyone is kind of in the green here. West is single as far as we know, and Amanda is separated from Kyle. Ciara has no tangible claim over West.

However, when you take everything into consideration, Ciara Miller was done fucking dirty here by both West and Amanda, and not that I am excusing a man’s actions in any way (since you all know how I feel about men), but I am mostly disappointed in Amanda because tbh this tomfoolery is to be expected from a fuckboy like West.

Granted, from a personal standpoint, I absolutely acknowledge that Amanda believes she is exploring a very real connection she feels she has with West, and as I’ve been in a similar situation before, I can understand that it’s foolish to not pursue something real if you feel it deep within you. If this connection was to manifest in a very deep and real relationship, then this would have all been for something at the end, even if it costed Ciara.

But Amanda would’ve seen that Ciara had an obvious interest in West, even if she was putting him through the work after releasing him from boy-prison and putting him out on parole, and Ciara clearly had a deep history with West that affected her core. And knowing all of that, she still pursued this elicit situationship with West who also should’ve known better, but we gave him too much credit in the first place because under that warm, himbo exterior that made me love him, is a dumbass man who has made dumbass decisions before.

Now I hear that Amanda has apparently lost sponsorship deals over this, and by no means should that be happening over a personal relationship which would have no affect on the world whatsoever if it wasn’t played out on reality TV. Like why on earth is this woman facing harsh repercussions when the literal men in charge of USA get away with… I’m not even going to get started on this.

But Amanda needs to cop to the moral ambiguity of this situationship, and most importantly she needs to take accountability for her actions with Ciara and not play it off as if she’s innocently pursuing a relationship with someone random as opposed to her supposed close friend’s ex. Because this is not giving girl’s girl, and that’s the image she’s tried to portray since being a main cast member of Summer House.

And West, honestly, just needs to grow tf up. Because I don’t see this leading to anything real if his relationship with Ciara and even Dara are to be considered, and he would’ve fucked his relationship up not only with Amanda, but with Ciara (again), and that would’ve also led to the destruction of their friendship. Just because he thought with the head in his pants.

As it pertains to Kyle, he’s said that he’s fine and he’s more concerned about Amanda because they’ve spoken since Amanda and West’s horseshit joint statement dropped and she’s apparently struggling. But I guess in a similar sense, West did his close friend Kyle dirty by shagging his estranged wife, and if subtle cues and body language suggest correctly, Kyle is fucking done with West.

Phew. I’m sure I’m missing more angles, opinions and takes on this foolishness but I feel like I’ve exhausted myself just writing this blog post.

And if you’re wondering where I stand, I’m firmly #TeamCiara. And no, she does not need to be featured on The Bachelorette because of this nonsense because Ciara does not need to be put on another show with even more fame-hungry gronks who just want to grow their social media following.

We at Widow’s Lure stand with you, Ciara Miller!

– by The Black Widow